WHAT DOES SUCCESS LOOK LIKE? (I)

Do you know what you want, what you really, really want? Most people don’t – most people certainly think or look like they do.

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Yo, I’ll tell you what I want, what I really, really want.

Do you know what you want, what you really, really want? Most people don’t – most people certainly think or look like they do.

The Spice Girls. – Yo, I’ll tell you what I want, what I really, really want.

The steps to goal realisation

Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.

Please note that the words ‘assume’ and ‘hope’ are not included in this famous quote by Napoleon Hill , who changed the world with his book, “Think and Grow rich”.

He died in 1970, having published the book in 1937 and sold 20 million copies.

It is still an incredibly popular book to this day and continues to sell countless copies.

Tony Robbins took the “Pareto principle” and once said that your success is 80% psychology and 20% fundamental. Which means if you get in the right frame of mind, you can almost guarantee your success at some point in the future.

What Napoleon Hill similarly teaches in his books is that your mind is your greatest ally and enemy at the same time. Many people don’t succeed because of their beliefs that they develop.

As Henry Ford said –  “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.”

Self-belief and self-confidence are powerful allies, a powerful thing. As humans we are wired to follow what we think and what we believe. If we believe in and think about the positive about ourselves, our actions will likely follow this path in life.

Alternatively, thinking that we cannot do or achieve something also sets us on a path, but this time to fail or fall short. Despite what some say, a person’s own mind is one of the strongest influences that will ever be present in their life.

Many interviews with psychologists, agree that actions are a direct result of a person’s beliefs and thoughts. The mental picture of oneself is and will always be one of the greatest significances when it comes to determining a person’s success and life choices.

We all know it to be true

Why do people continue to look at themselves in a way that is less than successful? Why do people set goals and make plans, when they truly do not believe that they have the ability within themselves to accomplish them, or worse still simply believe that they will fail?

I believe that many people do not set out believing that they will fail, most begin with great intentions, and even an apparently strong ‘mindset’ to overcome hurdles, but they allow circumstances and the passage of time, often without expected results or obvious progress toward their goal(s) change the way they think. In a way, they think that they can at first, but then they eventually convince themselves that they cannot.

Remember though the little train who started, “I think I can, I think I can …”) and ends up over the brow of the hill, “I know I can, I know I can …”). A lovely story but the commitment is, “I know I  will, I know I will …” followed by “I said I would, I said I would …”

Many people set goals, whether they are to lose weight, save money, get out of debt, advance their career, start a business, and while they may believe that this is possible and truly want it to happen, there is usually not a strong enough mindset in place to see the goal through in its entirety.

It is more of a “wish” or a “dream”, like winning the lottery, than a reality to them. In this, lies the problem. Remember that he words ‘assume’, and ‘hope’ are not included in the famous quote by Napoleon Hill.

So how does one overcome the impending loss of self-confidence so common in life? How do you hold on to their thoughts of “I can,” even when reality (or others) would try to convince them otherwise? It happens only when we change our mindsets.

It is only when the reality of what we think we can do becomes greater than the reality of what we cannot do that results begin manifest. We need to start at the brow of the hill in belief even if not in the execution of the task.

Success is a mindset not an accomplishment alone

This reality most often comes when we adamantly refuse to settle for anything less than what we want. When reaching the goal becomes so real to us that no obstacle can dissuade the path to our desire and no amount of work becomes too much.

We believe it to be a self-evident truth that we feel in our hearts. We then we become who we want to be in our own minds, long before we become it in life.

If weight loss is the goal, we begin to think like someone who successfully manages their body. This, in turn, causes us to eat, exercise, and take care of our bodies in a way that promotes losing weight.

If becoming a successful entrepreneur and running your own business is the desire, then one must begin to think as an entrepreneur thinks – now you might not know how one thinks – so you have to learn. This is the price of admission – anything else is “hopes and dreams”.

Once we can visualize ourselves at our goal, and totally believe that we are capable of reaching this, we become the person that we have already thought ourselves to be.

The final thing to realize is in the timing of our thinking. Too many times people believe that they can do something, but they do not think that it can be done now, they procrastinate. I’ll start tomorrow, I’ll start when I pay off my car, after I’ve been on holiday, when the potato chips are gone … you get my meaning.

Nope, that doesn’t work either because you have just shown yourself, very clearly, that you’re not up the the job.

You most certainly can do it tomorrow, pay off your car, go on holiday, eat the chips – but you so so as if you were the person you are now, the new you. So, you will not only think that way, but you’ll plan and act the way the successful you think. That may or may not include doing those things or may change the way you do them.

So, as you sit there, reading this article, ask yourself what you think you want, really, really want (as the song goes). Once (and only once) you have determined this beyond the shadow of a doubt, act now.

Being indecisive about your thoughts will simply waste time – remember too, “MYTC” (“make your time counts “) your time is your life, something much too valuable to let slip away. Another quote, by Henry Ford –  “It has been my observation that most people get ahead during the time that others waste.” 

Whether true or not, we all have different beliefs that we accumulate from childhood, experiences, TV, books, authority figures, etc. To put it simply, we all have hurdles and walls planted in our minds, but we also have limitless amounts of potential.

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The 7 steps

Emerson said, “there is nothing capricious in nature”. You wouldn’t have the thoughts if you couldn’t achieve them. Simply put, the loss of desire leads to the loss of action – “play it safe” doesn’t work. We all know that really. Remember, you can’t discover new islands without leaving the shore of yours. Only people who don’t do anything, don’t make mistakes – and was it a mistake to do nothing?

Stephen Bray 2019

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