What exactly is do we know what we want ours to be?
I think that most would agree that our chosen lifestyle is largely based on our beliefs and what we’ve done in the past, the rest of it is perception (and ‘luck’). We live partly by design and partly restricted by our own perceived limitations. The goal is to strive toward being the best you can be, but also to acknowledge what you really want and to integrate that into your life, for, as they say, ‘we have but one life to live’.
An individual’s lifestyle
“A way of living of individuals, families (households) and societies, which they manifest in coping with their physical, psychological, social and economic environments on a day-to-day basis,” says the Business Directory.
Of course, there is more to this as desire and choice are strong drivers of our lifestyles.
History has shown us too, that not only have our lives been strongly influenced by culture but by the individuals directing this culture, revolving around work, productivity and control of our habits both at and outside our places of work.
Tim Ferris, a man whose insight is sometimes a joy to behold has asked the question of “How is it possible, that all the people in the world need exactly 8 hours to accomplish their work?”
“It isn’t. 9-5 is arbitrary.” Whilst this may infer a simple and easy solution it does, whether its true or not; illustrate a perfect example of cultural anagramming. He goes on to give other examples, but I mention this only to consider how we may be the product of.
Planning a Lifestyle ?
Although attributed solely to John Lenon, it was way back in 1957 that Allen Saunders in a Readers Digest Cartoon said,”Life is what happens to us while we are making other plans.”
I think the majority of us can relate to that. In fact some may say that to have remained on track entirely with plans made in our youth may reflect some lack of spontaneity.
Our social and domestic upbringing starts our perception.
“A fair day’s wages for a fair day’s work”
When Carlyle stated this in 1843, he also asked what is a fair day’s wages, a newspaper article later in 1881 asked the same question – what is a fair day’s work? How are they determined by the laws under which modern society exists and develops itself?
For an answer to this we must not apply to the science of morals or of law and equity, nor to any sentimental feeling of humanity, justice, or even charity.
What is morally fair, what is even fair in law, may be far from being socially fair. Social fairness or unfairness is decided by one science alone — the science which deals with the material facts of production and exchange, the science of political economy.
Interestingly in 1856 Thirteen years later American Congress turned that concept around, passing a law to penalize and ‘claw-back” senators and congressmen payments when they failed to deliver a day’s work for a day’s wages. Millions were owed but not collected.
Our belief systems
“Time is money”, an outdated concept?
I think it’s fair to say that from a lifestyle perspective as well as a work-based perspective, this can’t be correct.
It’s simply because money can’t be related to two individual’s time for several reasons ranging from self-worth trough perception, its relative not absolute.
Secondly although both can be leveraged, money is available and can be recovered, time can’t.
Education and other reference groups
“Work hard, the results will come”, an outdated concept too?
No one would dispute that hard work is necessary somewhere along the line, except maybe for the very rich or the very privileged, but again those people may still choose that option.
To return to Ferriss, while he writes. “You don’t need to go through life huffing and puffing, straining and red-faced.
You can get 95% of the results you want by calmly putting one foot in front of the other”, I think there are times when that figure may vary!
Is “Doing less is being lazy”, an outdated outdated or sensible?
One could argue that it is the accomplishment of the task over the accomplishment of the time.
I for one spend a lot of my time organising my desk, not effective but it’s work. Is it lazy to work less, or could it be an approach to productivity. Not everything that’s hard is important.
Do you really want “Lifestyles of the rich and famous?”
Truthfully, would most people really want a lifestyle of inordinate pressure through the public eye.
I once spoke to a financial consultant who said that from his perspective over the years, a man’s happiness appeared to be inversely proportional to the size of his portfolio.
“Money can’t buy happiness”, true or false?
in 1750, Rousseau wrote, “Money can buy material things, but real happiness must be truly earned”, while much later, Spike Milligan stated, “Money can’t buy you happiness but it does bring you a more pleasant form of misery”.
Groucho Marx, “While money can’t buy happiness, it certainly lets you choose your own form of misery.”
Business Directory says of ‘Lifestyle’
“Lifestyle is expressed in both work and leisure and behaviour patterns and )on an individual basis) in activities, attitudes, interests, opinions, values and [the] allocation of income. It also reflects people’s self-image or self-concept; the way they see themselves [and perhaps more importantly] believe they are seen by the others.”
Lifestyle is optional in its perception; misery is equally so. Our lifestyle is of our own making, but sometimes it gets away from us, again; ‘Life is what happens to us while we are making other plans.
So, strive toward your best health and your financial security. What are you going to do with this “wealth” – what do you want your lifestyle to be from here? Whether you enjoy sport(s), travel, lifestyle or hobby, remember “.
Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future.
Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family.
Every minute should be enjoyed and savoured – Earle Nightingale and of course, “Life is not a spectator sport. If you’re going to spend your whole life in the grandstand just watching what goes on, in my opinion you’re wasting your life.” – Jackie Robinson.
So, strive toward being your best and give more than just a thought to doing what you really want to do, for we “only go round once”.
How to live in the day.
“It’s been said that yesterday is history, tomorrow a mystery while today is a present, be thankful for your present, say “thank you” and enjoy it as you’ve never enjoyed anything before”.
Actually, you can only live in the day.
Plan for the future, but don’t plan on the outcome. It is not in your control no matter how powerful you are.
There’s always something more powerful than you, so it’s nice to find your niche in this life, to try your best, to be your best. To always choose the next right thing. To review your values and live by and within them.
To live within society and recognise your bill of rights as an individual.
For me, life style is a personal choice what would be pure happiness to one would be under whelming to another, theirs would be “over-the-top to the first, and so on.
For me a lifestyle should be what makes you happy – and this includes freedom and security. For those over the age of 65, this has not always been achieved, or many times, achieved and lost.
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Dr Stephen Bray 2019